Monthly Archives: November 2014

Happy Thanksgiving!


What are you thankful for today?

We’ll see you Monday!

Bonus: Quick answers to nosy questions.

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Tea. Earl Grey. Hot.

“Stand at the brink of the abyss of despair, and when you see that you cannot bear it anymore, draw back a little and have a cup of tea.”

Elder Sophrony of Essex

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Bingo: Second Verse, Bad as the First

2nd Annual Orthogals Bingo Card! First one to get 5 in a row wins an empathetic facepalm from everyone in the room. Use last year’s card to play against your friends and survive the holidays.


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Linkage: Helpful skills edition

Masters of Love [The Atlantic]
Science says successful relationships are built on kindness and generosity. Thankfully, science also gets a little more specific about what exactly those mean.

10 Essential Life Skills You Can Master in No Time [Verily]

How to Push Past that Terrifying Dip in Motivation [FastCo]

How to Handle Being Out of Your Depth: 6 Tips from a Con Man [Art of Manliness]

And just for fun…

How to Make the World’s Best Paper Airplanes [Art of Manliness]

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Bear Serenely

“If you can bear serenely the trial of being displeasing to yourself, then you will be for Jesus a place of refuge.”

St. Thérèse of Lisieux, via Fr Stephen

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Reader questions

the best orthodox friendship sites
That’s a fun question. There are some good options in the blogosphere, and our commenters recently recommended their favorite blogs. If you’re looking to make new friends, have you taken a gander at Orthodox Circle or even OrthodoxChristianDating? Both are a little quiet, but I’ve had a good conversation or two, even truly platonic nice ones. I hesitate to mention online fora, because they get really weird, but there are some nice Facebook groups and online communities.

can you make greek salad ahead of time
Anna says, “You can cut the vegetables up the day before but I wouldn’t recommend adding the tomatoes until it’s ready to be served.” And don’t add lettuce.

films about broken relationships?
Chinatown comes to mind, though it’s as dark as it gets.

funniest movie for a broken heart
Probably Princess Bride, though Roman Holiday is one of my utmost favorites.

how answer rude questions you don’t want to answer
Don’t. Smile absently and ask about the weather, completely ignoring the question. See also this.

dating seminarian sucks
I’m sorry. Are you sure you want to be dating him? If it’s just hard maybe get some support from your priest and matushka. If it honestly sucks, though, it’s okay to break things off. You don’t need a reason to end things, you can just say “I appreciate our time together, and I wish you all the best, but I’m breaking up with you.” Only date someone you’re happy about.

dating a guy who likes secular things
Okay, nothing wrong with that, unless the specific things are problematic. Does he appreciate the sacred as well?

modest, sensible and focused on the team
Those are good attributes. I’m not sure how or why they led you here, but I would like to add that it’s also okay in many situations to be flamboyant, vibrant, whimsical, impulsive, and healthily attentive to one’s own needs. I’m not entirely sure why I feel the need to tell you that, but I do, and I mean it. I try to be modest and sensible and focused on needs and goals of any team I’m on, but somehow the combination of those 3 makes me feel concerned.

matushka definition mother of god
I think you may be confused. Matushka means “little mother,” and it’s an affectionate term for the priest’s wife. The Mother of God is often called the Theotokos, or God-bearer.

lust vs love orthogals
Well, they’re opposites. I mean, really, exact opposites. Lust is dehumanizing; they’re not a person, they’re an object of your desire. An object, think about that for a second. Love…love comes from God, love embraces them as a person, it can’t exist without seeing them as a whole person made in the image of God. You can love someone and find them very attractive without making them into an object.

christian orthodox and being single
god and singlehood
being single and easterrn orthodox
Is pretty okay, actually. There’s room for you here. Plenty of saints didn’t get married, and they still led fulfilling lives with lots of good relationships in them. Monasticism is a beautiful option, but as long as you have a strong community of support I’m not too worried about you. You can live a full, satisfying life and glorify God regardless of your marital status. In fact, that’s what you’re called to do.

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#DudesGreetingDudes [Buzzfeed]
A stellar response to catcalling. Clever and on-point. Language warning.

“Whoa. Bruh. U look good 2day. Thought I’d mention it. I just wanna brighten ur morning! Do you, SON!’ #dudesgreetingdudes

— Francis Ford Coconut (@nikolaiharmon) November 7, 2014

Transgender People Can Explain Why Women Don’t Advance at Work [New Republic]

Do You Know About Jian [Nothing in Winnipeg]
A startlingly honest look at why, even when everyone knows that someone’s a danger, nobody speaks up.

“Would you, if you had nothing besides stories that weren’t yours, little things you’d seen, a million tiny red flags that quietly added up to make you feel unsafe?”

The Stories We Don’t Tell [Becoming Minimalist]

Creature of Habit: Food, Marriage, and Ginger Beer [The Toast]

…Okay, so it’s not the bubbliest of round-ups. But it’s Friday and the snow is melting, so have a good weekend, and enjoy the last of the fall colors!

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Mini Catechism: Liturgy

In a side-step from our usual commentary on life, we offer a brief segue into an explanation of what is happening during the Divine Liturgy. All disclaimers to varied practices are listed in the video. And for those of our readership who arrive just in time for the Gospel, you can know what happens in the first 20 minutes of Liturgy!!

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Your Favorite Blogs

What are some of your favorite blogs? What do you read on young adulthood? What Orthodox blogs do you love? Inquiring minds want recommendations.

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Friday Linkage

“Joking around” can be an act of cruelty [Hatrack]

3 Steps to Building a Happy Relationship [Verily]

How to Get People to Like You [Barking Up the Wrong Tree]

The Myth of Following Your Passion [Art of Manliness]

Conversations with Nuns [Harvard Divinity Bulletin]

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