young orthodox christian bloggers
Ooh, great question. Who else do we know? Orthogents comes to mind, and some of the writers on the Sounding are our age. By Singing Light is mostly about books, and it’s one of my favorites. Malheure is fantastic.
Ah, thanks for asking! Yes, the icon drive has been going well, and if you have more icons send them to Fr. David Rucker directly.
How do I help?
There are some interesting examples and explanations here.
examples of courtesy
Courtesy is a form of thoughtfulness, a kindness. Holding the door open for the person behind you, asking someone (especially an older or disabled person) if you can get them anything while you’re up, deferring to the interests of another, especially if they are due a little extra respect or consideration—for example someone older, wiser, weaker, or even just often-overlooked.
what do older guys do to creep out younger femals
Well, any number of things, but it depends on the specific people in question. Generally creepy means “you do not have emotional permission to do XYZ”, whether that’s because XYZ is too personal/intimate for this situation or because XYZ is completely inappropriate always. An example of the first might be placing a hand on the small of her back, if that’s not within the normal realm of touch for the relationship; an example of the second could be propositioning her, or even just asking about her sex life and preferences. (Yes, that is a thing that happens. Ick.)
Another significant element is also not picking up on the other person’s cues to please leave now thanks, or deliberately making them feel like they can’t say no. With the age difference in particular, there can be a funky power dynamic, where the older person does something inappropriate but acts as if their behavior is reasonable, taking on this weird fond amusement about the younger person’s discomfort. Not kosher.
reasons why not to follow 21st century dating rules
In general, I recommend not following any rule that would require you to break another rule that you hold dear, or that’s foundational to your worldview, your happiness, or your integrity. If your rule is that you want to go from single life to a respectful, chaste, and clear-cut dating relationship to engagement to marriage to possibly babies, and to do it in that order, then the expected modern-day order (a series of blurry transitions from single life to ambiguously dating to sleeping together to living together to possibly kids to possibly marriage) isn’t likely to make you happy. I’m not sure there are hard-and-fast 21st century dating rules, but if you stumble across one and you don’t like it, then go with the rules that let you live with joy and comfort and integrity. Especially integrity.
why russian orthodox men make good husbands
Well, if we assume that we’re talking about God-fearing, church-going Orthodox men, then they make good husbands because (more assumptions) they have their priorities straight, they’re working on their lovingkindness and integrity, they have the examples of the saints and martyrs, and they have a father confessor who tells them when they’re out of line. All love comes from God, right? So a man who puts a priority on loving God is going to be an awful lot better at loving you.
boundaries for the friend zone
USE YOUR WORDS.
boundaries in the friend zone
Oh fine. If you are friends with someone that you’d rather be dating (and you’ve already asked them on a date and been rejected), there are a few things you can do to protect yourself from unnecessary agony. First of all, find someone other than your friend/love-interest to vent to about this. Your feelings are not your friend/love-interest’s problem. Keep an eye on how you spend your time. Even if you truly love your friend/love-interest as a friend in addition to a swoony love interest, don’t spend all your time with them or thinking about them. Don’t let them dump all their personal stuff on you, don’t go out of your way to be exceptionally nice, don’t be the shoulder to cry on about their romantic issues. Watch yourself, and if you notice you’re driving four hours out of your way to do a favor for your friend/love-interest, please pull over, call a friend, and plan a new roadtrip. A) You are not a doormat or a trained puppy, and treating yourself like one won’t win you any admiration from anybody. B) People aren’t vending machines; there is no amount of “nice” or good listening or overly-helpful favors that will earn you a relationship.
If you find trying to maintain a friendship with them endlessly tortuous, then don’t. It’s okay. You are allowed to say, “Hey, I still think you’re great, but I’m going to take a break for a few months to get over my feelings for you. I appreciate your help in this. I’ll be back in touch when I can be, but I need space and silence for a little while. Keep me in your prayers, and of course you’re in mine.”
i do not think
Might want to see to that.
articles on being a matushka
Have you seen Presbytera Anonyma? This and this in particular. What about Khouriyeh Said What? The Perfect Presbytera article has shown up on a few blogs, and it’s one of my favorites.
thank you note to orthodox priest and matushka
Always a good thing. I’m not sure there’s any national Appreciate Your Clergy day, but next Sunday’s as good a day as any.
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how. to meet single orthodox
Beats the heck out of me.
Oh, wait, no it doesn’t. 2 things: Make it a priority, and fill your life now with wonderful fulfilling things like good friends, fun hobbies, and a nourishing spiritual life. Step 1 is so you don’t spend more time complaining than going to church or to Orthodox gatherings. Step 2 is so you don’t act needy, self-focused, and boring when you get there.
Go to Orthodox talks and conferences, monastery retreats, mission trips, and summer camps. Mention to your priest you’d like to meet other Orthodox people your age. Hang out with Orthodox people of your same age and same gender whenever possible; friendship matters, and networking is useful. And fill your life with ways to glorify God right now. I know it’s hard, and it’s easy to feel isolated in our sprawling world. But you’re going to be all right.