Monthly Archives: June 2014

Icons for Guatemala Update

Thank you so much.

The short version of the update on the icon drive for the Guatemalan churches is you are awesome human beings. 

With everyone’s generous support, the youth at Saints Constantine and Elena have filled three boxes with icons large and small, and they are shipping the collection this week. For the time being, they are finished collecting icons.

However, if you’d like to send a single package, set up an icon drive at your parish, or contribute financially to the ongoing endeavor, please contact Fr. David Rucker at There is still a great need for icons of Christ and the Theotokos in particular.

And, as always, please keep our brothers and sisters in Christ in Guatemala in your prayers.

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5 Uncomfortable Truths Behind the Men’s Rights Movement [Cracked]

Kissing in wedding photos is gross [Slate]

Is there more to Tinder than hookups? [Verily]

Lose Your Passion [Ethika Politika]

It wasn’t a date [First Things]. I’m linking to this one because I do not, in fact, agree with the writer. Girl, just because a guy doesn’t want something more, doesn’t mean that it wasn’t a date. 

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Old Love

“Nothing, so it seems to me,” said the stranger, “is more beautiful than the love that has weathered the storms of life…. The love of the young for the young, that is the beginning of life.  But the love of the old for the old, that is the beginning of — of things longer.”

— Jerome K. Jerome, The Passing of the Third Floor Back

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Linkage: Random Good Stuff

Study on the Trophy Wife Stereotype [EurekAlert]

Masters of Love [Atlantic]

The Worst Questions Women Get When Online Dating [Refinery29]

High Manxiety [Daily Beast]

When Suits Become a Stumbling Block [Salt]

All the Single Ladies [EthikaPolitika]

Can we please stop using that phrase for article titles? Read it anyway. 

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My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance and in inverse proportion to my expectations.

– Michael J. Fox

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Lenten Recipe: Chocolate Zucchini Bread

Since it’s the beginning of the Apostles’ Fast, and summer means plentiful fresh veggies, we figured we’d post a quick recipe. This is gluten-free, vegan, and genuinely delicious.

1C almond butter (sunbutter should work too)
3T maple syrup or honey or something
2T cocoa powder
1t cinnamon
1C shredded zucchini
2 flax eggs (or egg substitute of your choice, but these are easy and good for you)
1T vanilla
1t apple cider vinegar
1/2t baking soda
pinch of salt…or two or three pinches, because salt is lovely
2T chocolate chips if you want them

So first off, preheat the oven to 400 degrees and grease your pan.

Once you’ve shredded/grated your zucchini, squeeze it out in some paper towels. And then get fresh paper towels and do it again. No, seriously, squeeze the daylights out of that zucchini. Otherwise you’ll end up with this weird chocolatey quiche thing and it’ll be very confusing and sad.
Set your barely-damp zucchini aside for a while.

Blend the almond butter,  cinnamon, cocoa powder, and 1T of the maple syrup. Pour that into a large bowl and mix in your flax eggs, vanilla, maple syrup, and salt. If you have a hand mixer, dig it out of the cupboard and use that on medium speed for 2 minutes. If you don’t have a hand mixer, gloat about the muscles you’re developing.

Oh right. To make flax eggs, it’s 1T ground flax mixed with 3T water (per egg, so 2T flax and 6T water here). Once you’ve mixed it up, you can either heat it on the stovetop til they congeal or set the mixture in the fridge for 15 mins. I usually use the stovetop method, but that’s only because I never remember to make them in time to chill them. Then again, I also never remember to preheat the oven, so there you go.

So the next step is kind of odd. You’re going to drop the baking soda on top of the batter, and then you’re going to pour the apple cider vinegar on top. It’ll fizz like crazy. Yes, like your fifth grade science-fair volcano. Fold that into the batter with your rubber spatula.

Now fold in your zucchini, and pour it into a loaf pan or even a muffin tin. Sprinkle the chocolate chips on top if that’s your thing. You could go for nuts or something if you wish. Bake for about 25 mins for minis and 35+ for a loaf; do the toothpick test to tell when it’s done.

Adapted from this recipe, which has some helpful tips and even a video. Apparently it works well as the foundation for carrot bread/cake and other variations. I want to do a gingerbread variety with molasses instead of maple syrup.


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Linkage: List Edition

13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A Grown-Ass Man [Thought Catalog]

21 Ways You Know You Are Dating a Grown Ass Woman [Culsire]

5 Dating Pointers Worth Re-Thinking [Verily]

5 Relationship Zones Worse than the Friend Zone [Cracked]

And from the Satire Department:

7 Put-Downs Toward Other Women to Make Him Want YOU [Reductress]

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Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you’.

Eric Fromm

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Battle of the Marital Status

Lists on the interwebs, I’ve observed, are ways that new bloggers can make it look as though they are being productive and wise. It’s like the people that start off their day writing at the top of the paper “1 – Make To Do List”.

This in mind, I read a list earlier in the year: 23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged. I get part of it. Around senior year of college, enough engagement rings start appearing that those who are single can wonder if they are missing something. But I was still not impressed with her suggestions. Was this a list saying that getting engaged is another task in life? Some of her items served others and promoted personal growth. Others not so much.

Well, someone read the first list and wrote her response. But she wasn’t helpful. Rather, she was rude and impudent. She states in her rebuttal that “Well, if this is her bucket list, then maybe she shouldn’t publish it and suggest that I do it, too.” But what does she say later?

“Oh, and that if you’re going to share a list of fun things to do, make sure they’re actually fun. And worthwhile. So, here goes. 23 Things You Can Do With Your Husband Regardless of Age.”

And later on:

“…maybe that’s why some people don’t marry young, or ever! Because sucky people like her suggest doing awful things like that.”

Wait, wha—??

And the married vs single wars continue.

After reading the first list, other than rolling my eyes at some of the suggestions, all I could see was a 23 year-old needing validity for not getting married. It seemed to be a plea for purpose. “Help! I’m caught between desire for relationship and feminism!”

And the married girl? First, don’t mention making out or having make-up sex with your husband – multiple times in one post. Second, why are you so offended that someone was trying to encourage, albeit badly, that people not focus their personhood on marriage? Third, you didn’t represent the marrieds very well. You were snarky to the single girl. You didn’t say anything positive about your single experience. Also, getting married at 25 is not that big of a difference to 23.

In fact here’s what both articles screamed to me:



But some lists, or lists disguised as prose can be good. This came to my attention a few weeks after I read the first two lists.

“Start living the life that you do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will come a time you’ll meet a boy and you’ll have to give up some of this single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start doing that now.”

It was refreshing as secular reasoning for singleness can be. It reminded me of a book I read at the beginning of my post-college life that gave a list of 100 things to do in your 20s. But unlike the first two lists – it doesn’t depend on or make value judgments about marital status.

We can have all the lists we want and never have the life we need.

The heart of the first two lists is basic discontent and lack of approval. As Christians, this is crucial to understand. All we need as the source of our validity, personhood, approval, and life’s contentment is Christ. He gave us other good things – family, the Church, talents, abilities – but they are not to be the foundation of our acceptance and knowing we are loved.

I needed three years of counseling and multiple reminders since that Christ is my contentment. Christ is my source of acceptance. The very God that says He knit you in your mother’s womb, and looked on his creation and called it good (Psalms and Genesis, respectively). This same God calls us to lay aside everything that hinders and look to Christ, the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12).

Get away from lists and go towards Christ. The list looks easier at first, but in reality it is heavy and constricting, regardless of your marital status.

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Linkage: Sex and Celibacy Edition

Redefining Sexual Ethics Redefines Celibacy [A Queer Calling]
If you read nothing else this week, read this. It’s beautiful.

Your Princess is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds [Daily Beast]

What the Purity Movement Didn’t Tell Us [Thoughts by Annalynn]

The Virgin Brain [The Toast]
Sex doesn’t just increase oxytocin, it changes the genetic expression in the brain. At least in prairie voles.

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